A threesome is a familiar fantasy for many people. It’s an experience coveted, with some people listing it on their bucket list. Depending on taste, a threesome can be MMF (two males and a single female) or FFM (two females and a single male). Here is how to convince your partner to get a threesome experience:
- Explain Your Point of View Clearly
Obviously, your girl isn’t going to like the idea of you throbbing and pleasuring yourself with another woman other than herself. Furthermore, this might come out as the man losing interest in her woman. Explaining your point of view, however, should get you out of the ropes. Show her that it’s more about your fantasy than anything else. It is a common fantasy so that you wouldn’t be overstepping the boundaries. Be open about it, and have strong points to convince her.
- Move with Caution
Of course, this is a sensitive topic, and there is a need for exercising caution while talking about it with your wife/girlfriend. Don’t force it on her. Insist on it being a fun way of spicing up your sex life. It can be fronted as a way of fulfilling a childhood fantasy of having two women worshiping you at the same time. Your woman might be resistant to the threesome idea until you present and show it in a good way.
- Talk about the Concerns
Any normal couple will have concerns proceeding with a threesome. The whole idea of exploring will raise eyebrows. If you’re a jealous couple and have issues, it’s better to resolve them first before talking about having a threesome. If you’re going ahead with the plan, discuss talking points, ground rules, and how to approach it. It’s better to make it a combined effort with everyone involved and eagerly to make it happen.
- Don’t Be Pushy
The trick is to make your girlfriend interested and on board with it. If she is not ready or receptive to the idea, don’t push it. It just means your relationship isn’t ready to make the step yet. Give it time and use other means to introduce the topic.
- Watch Shows and Movies
There are plenty of shows and movies that have threesome action going around. Suggest watching these movies to get her warmed up to the idea. There will be couples in the show having discussions about the same. It is your chance to learn how to convince your partner using the same concepts.
What to Do When Your Wife Asks for a Threesome
Relationships are about reciprocating energies. Ask for a threesome means having the courage to gift one for your girl. A threesome request shouldn’t make you go berserk. Understand that it’s merely a way of spicing up the sex life. Sexual fantasies are exactly that and nothing more.
- Pros and Cons
Discuss the pros and cons of the whole thing. It is a great method of resolving conflicts in a relationship and is commended by dating experts. List how this arrangement is going to benefit you and what the shortcomings are. The good thing with threesomes is couples can identify what works and doesn’t work for them sexually.
- Set Ground Rules
Reluctance to a threesome is quite normal, so there’s a general consensus of giving the reluctant party the privilege of setting the ground rules. There could be a no kissing rule, no fondling or cuddling, protection for penetration, and more. These ground rules will help to smooth the process and remove any doubts from a partner.
- Try a Hookup Website
Getting a candidate for a threesome can be hard work. So if your woman is suggesting getting one, suggest trying a hand at a hookup website. There are a lot of good threesome dating sites where you can sign up as a couple and start looking for a threesome partner. It will help you identify a potential partner much easier than you would in real life.
- Watch Threesome Porn
Most women are interested in MMF threesomes, so getting used to what goes on isn’t a bad idea. Reciprocating is a big part of relationships, so taking the initiative to learn how to make it special for her isn’t a big fetch.
A good number of women will warm up to a threesome if you present it right. It depends on the stage of your relationship and understanding. If it’s too early in a relationship, you need to give it time. If your partner introduces the idea before you, try to be supportive.